Haven't posted in a while because of various reasons but i know I miss doing it when I don't do it every day.
Had some sleep problems and felt a little down. Disappointed in people as much as anything. No one doing "their share" of the work==especially in AA--but sitll expecting the meeting to be there and coffee set up.
One meeting I go to has changed flavors dramatically since one of the leaders left. I hope it survives especially as I'm their rep. But if it doesn't, it doesn't. That's up to attendance. But the attendance is so irratic that there is no one to do the 'jobs" that need to be done so I'm left with it all. How can people, even those with long term sobriety, ignore what needs to be done? Never speak up to accept responsibility? Always expect that someone will be there? So unfair to the newcomer especially.
Got some things done around the house yesterday and used the new carpet cleaner to great success. Most of the puppy pee spots are gone now--although I'm sure there'll be more! Chloe seems to be healing nicely from her surgery and the dogs are playing at near normal speed--she walks a big funny but I'm glad she's protecting herself.
Also did laundry and made a stir=fry from leftovers. Even washed some artificial flowers and changed the decorations a bit to suit fall.
So far no fall-out from Dad as I took over the clean-up in the bedroom and threw out 3 or 4 wastebaskets of "stuff" he'd had piled on his dress and chiffarobe in out room! Some things were from 2005! He said the room looked great!
To his credit, he's been working on his room and we can actually see the floor! He commented on how Megumi made him pick up the stuff on his floor when she lived with us! Maybe I should be harder on him!
Actually got him working on a project on the outside of the house that has been needing work for over 2 yrs! It's not done but at least it's started.
Invited some people over for supper Sat. and they have cheerfully accepted! Just a spur of the moment type of thing and a get-together with some AA friends. Going to try making some paella--have never tried that before.
Jeff asked if I'd consider fixing some lunches for hs staff in the upcoming future so he can open dialog with them. He also wants me to make an appearance so they see he actually does come from a mother!
Well, the dogs are out so guess that's time to sign-off! They desparately need to go for a walk!
Love and peace,
Carol
Saved by the Grace of God
1 year ago
3 comments:
Mom,
Thanks for the update.
Sorry you have been feeling down. Sounds like your group has some leadership issues. Has anyone stepped up to the plate to fill in the void? I find that sometimes if I want things done it is good practice to look someone in the eye and say, You are doing this. We have a practice of volunteering others to get stuff done. That also might help with the attendance. People tend to take more interest if they are involved.
Funny about cleaning up Dad’s stuff. I am sure sooner or later he will be looking for something for days as a result. My cure in general is to have less stuff. I do an assessment and cleanout every now and then of stuff I have not used in a while, I may still want them, but if they have fulfilled there mission it is time for it to go. Sometimes if I am “attached” to something, I put it in storage for about a year. If it is still there after a year and it was not needed. It goes to e-bay or good will.
“He commented on how Megumi made him pick up the stuff on his floor when she lived with us! Maybe I should be harder on him!”
Odd that I am often telling Megumi to not put things on the floor!
Paella is good stuff. We used to go to a little Spanish restaurant in Milwaukee that made it quite well. I am sure you will enjoy it.
Gee, maybe you can fix some lunches for my staff, Just kidding.!
Love
Jordan
Hello Carol!
I've landed on your blog via Jordan's posting at Treeleaf Sangha and his blog led me to you!
I read your entry for 9/10/07 and interestingly enough I found I could change some of the names and leave the facts the same and aside from paella, and washing artificial flowers it could have been my own blog!
I help weekly in setting up a room for a meditation (zazen) group. It is a 'service' I do--because I know how important it is--especially for newcomers--to have a place ready and welcoming. It is interesting for me to see that not everyone sees this, or responds to it. I thought I would continue to be of service in this way until others stepped up to take this on. I ponder now if others aren't stepping up because I'm already in place, doing it......hmmmm, maybe I should step down, thereby leaving a space where others could step up?
Now I am looking at the fact that not only is it true that I have been of service, but this 'being of service' has been of service to me!
Anyway....I just wanted to let you know how much I liked your entry.
Thank you, Keishni, for visiting my blog!
I have to think about "service" and why I'm doing it. There's another group I bring treats to every week. I do this because I have a wonderful remodeled kitchen and love to cook but with just the two of us it's not so much fun. Cooking for many is fun! I get many compliments and feel I'm being of service, but, in truth, I'm satisfying myself so I guess it's a win-win situation!
I have to think about this with the other groups I do service work for and why I'm doing it. Makes me think I need to stop complaining if, in fact, I'm getting pleasure for it and a certain fullfilment! Otherwise, like Jordan says, I should either nominate someone or stop doing the work that is not giving me pleasure!
In love and Service!
Carol
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